Let’s talk about a common blunder many guys make in the dating game. Are you guilty of it too? Let’s dive in.
The Mistake:
Believing you can win a girl over simply by trying harder.
Think about it:
In sports, if you lose, you try again with more effort, right? Same goes for work – if your performance slips, you put your nose to the grindstone, expecting better results.
But dating doesn’t quite work that way.
If you’ve asked a girl out multiple times without success, pushing harder won’t get you far. It’ll only paint you as overly needy, possibly leading to being blocked.
So, what’s the alternative?
Ease up.
Especially in the early stages, less is often more. Treat her like any other person, not the love of your life.
Here’s what that looks like:
- Don’t rush to reply to her messages; take your time.
- Don’t ditch plans with friends to accommodate her schedule.
- It’s okay to say “no” if she tries to alter plans. It shows you have boundaries.
And guess what?
When you dial down the effort, dating gets simpler. Women respect you more, conversations flow better, and you can just be yourself.
Sounds good, doesn’t it?