Recently a mentoring client asked me this question – what should you do differently if you only want something casual with a woman? Well, actually not much. It doesn’t matter if you want to date a woman casually or long term… The attraction process is the same. The initial approach, texting, setting up dates, going on the first few dates… You need to bring fun to the interaction, connect with her on an emotional level, create attraction… It’s all the same. Just follow what I teach and have a good time. And the part that’s different? It comes when you’ve gone beyond the first couple of dates. If at any point, she asks you what you’re looking for… Don’t hide or lie about your intention. Just tell her with full honesty – you aren’t looking for anything serious. Don’t say, “let’s just go with the flow”. Women all know that translates to you just want to sleep with her. You can say something like “I’m not ready to have anything serious. I’m just looking to date casually and enjoy the company of each other.” You’ll be surprised by how many women are looking for casual dating as well. And of course, you also need to be prepared for a different response. Sometimes, she’ll tell you she’s actually looking for a serious boyfriend and doesn’t want to date casually. In that case, you’d have to accept that and let her go. This way, the two of you are totally true to yourselves. And there won’t be any surprises or resentment down the road. Got it? Honesty is key here. As long as you’re sincere and not trying to hide anything, I’m sure it’ll turn out fine. Give it a try and let me know how it goes. |
